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Time to resurrect the Trans thread

Discussion in 'Miscellaneous Discussion' started by Dax, 18 July 2013.

  1. Ialyrn Aeloria

    Ialyrn Aeloria The Unknown Entity

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    I am glad you are finding a way to move forward, as these things are not easy to navigate at all. We all have to find our own individual way forward.

    With regards to the NHS stuff, you are totally correct; you have to be on the pathway to receive that assistance from them. I will say however, you specifically mention dysphoric feelings with regards to facial hair. I have had a pretty serious issue on this front myself, but I held out for the help from the NHS with regards to getting it removed. I have been on the pathway for almost 6 years, so it made sense to hold out. The treatments for a full face hair removal isnt too pricey as far as I can tell, it may be worth you checking to see if it is something than can fit in your budget. For a full face, like what the NHS pay for; you should be able to get 6 sessions for around the £700 to £800. Possibly even less, I do not know; you would have to talk to a laser clinic to find out for sure. I can only guesstimate. A good laser clinic, such as SK:N, should have free consultations, so never hurts to enquirer. You wouldn't have to tell them anything personal, other than you just want to get rid of facial hair. The sessions are spread out over a 4 week period, as they need to catch the hair in its growth cycle for the most effective treatment. I do not know if they do payment plans, but it would be worth asking if your dysphoric feelings are as bad as they appear to be on that front.

    Up until the past year I would pluck each and ever hair out by hand with tweezers, so I fully understand how bad you must be feeling over it. I had to force myself this past year to not pluck it, as I knew the hair removal was finally on the cards. Laser will not work unless the hair is actually there, so if you do pluck at all; stop a few months before even contemplating seeing about any hair removal treatments.

    It does sound, as far as I can tell from your written postings however, that you should be sitting down to speak to a gender psychologist; if you are not already doing so. You would be surprised by how much it helps. When I finally made it to Charing Cross GIC, just having a doctor to talk to that understood and was able to help finally allowed me to breath as a crushing weight was lifted.

    The waiting lists can get pretty long, so for anyone who does seek out a GIC; it will take a bare minimum of a year before you get to see a gender specialist in most case. Took 3 years for me to finally walk in their door from first seeking help, but I was forced to see a local psychiatrist by my then GP; and the whole process got held up as the psychiatrist did not send out the referral for over a year.
     
  2. Kemaiku

    Kemaiku Honorary Pony

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    There's a lot I need to get sorted out, but this year hasn't been great and I'm not in the best place mentally to deal with it all right now. And I've had dental surgery that's taken weeks to heal, I was on strong painkillers and antibiotics, zonked out for a while.

    But it's getting bad again, shaving overly much or just getting constant low moods, I'll try and talk to someone next year early on and start something about that. I mean it's mostly the facial hair that's always been a pain like that, just looking at myself and seeing it as something wrong. The rest has been easier to hide or remove.

    As for right now I'm concentrating on growing out my hair (head lol) and that's going pretty well, might see about finally dying it early next year.
     
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  3. SRainboom

    SRainboom Beware The Kitten Holy!

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    Today I officially changed my name by deed poll, so my first 2 names are Lydia Grace :D I'm also working out a payment plan for laser hair removal which i should start early in the new year!
     
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  4. Ialyrn Aeloria

    Ialyrn Aeloria The Unknown Entity

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    @Kemaiku If you ever need to vent about anything, feel free to PM me.

    @SRainboom Please make sure it is proper laser and not IPL. IPL is utterly useless, I know from first hand experience, as I had 10 sessions of it and it didn't to anything at all. I had, both before and after, very dense and very dark facial hair and beard shadow. I couldn't even stay out longer than 8 hours without the regrowth becoming very noticeable (sight and touch), and I had to shave at least once per day. It couldn't even be covered up with makeup without having to go overboard.

    In comparison, I have only had 2 sessions of actual laser hair removal thus far; and now the facial hair is barely visible. I have not shaved for the past 3 days, and I could quite easily go outside right now without shaving; and it would not be an issue. You just cant see anything at this point without using a magnifying glass.

    The difference in the two forms of hair removal/reduction treatments is immense.
     
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    SRainboom Beware The Kitten Holy!

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    One of my friends who I've known since 6th form- about 10 years- came out as a trans man on Wednesday and I'm so proud of him :D Said I inspired him to be himself when I came out! Saw him for the first time in about 4 years last night, I'm glad he's back in my life. I'm crying tears of happiness!
     
  6. Wisdom Pen

    Wisdom Pen Residential Philosopher and Wizard of Lincoln

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    IMG_4546.jpg Been getting a lot of maternal pangs again recently.

    Do any others on here get that?
    What do you do about it?
     
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  7. SRainboom

    SRainboom Beware The Kitten Holy!

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    RAIIIIIIIINNNNNNN!!!!! <3 <3 <3
     
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  8. Kemaiku

    Kemaiku Honorary Pony

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    Ugh, wish my hair would grow faster, well my head anyway. So getting that dyed and my ears pierced (I know, never had that done either) is going to wait for a while.

    Getting really fed up with my razor so I've bought wax strips, if you hear screaming at some point this week, that's why.
     
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  9. Ialyrn Aeloria

    Ialyrn Aeloria The Unknown Entity

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    As your hair grows out visit a stylist around ever 6 to 8 weeks, get them to trim (not cut) and style in a more feminine way, as it will make your hair look much tidier as it grows out, as well as keeping spit ends minimal. Make sure to tell them you are growing it out, and they will take the bare minimum amount of hair. They will (if they are good at their job) be able to find a style that suits your face, and if they are really good; they will be able to draw attention away from any possible masculine features you may have.

    Also, try to minimize how often you use shampoo on your hair, try to set one day per week that you use shampoo on it; and use a good conditioner for your hair type after. I am not saying to walk around with dirty hair, try to use only conditioner between your shampoo day. Your hair will love you for trying to work like this. And try to use a deep conditioning treatment at least once every month.

    If you use hot styling implements on your hair when it is long enough to curl, or if it requires straightening; make sure you DO NOT have them set on the highest temperatures, and use a heat styling product. Using hot styling implements causes damage to the hair, using lower temps with them as well as heat styling products minimizes that damage a bit.

    When it comes to dying your hair, please be careful. Most over the counter hair dyes (even black hair dye) contains peroxide, the stuff people use to bleach their hair. Peroxide can causes skin irritation (mild reaction), and even chemical burns. Do the patch test that is recommended on these products.

    If you want to bleach your hair to use bright fashion colours (for instance, I dye mine with Manic Panic Atomic Turquoise), only ever bleach on greasy hair, the greasier the better. This will protect your scalp somewhat. Start from the tips of the hair and work towards to scalp. Sometimes, depending on hair length, you may need to stop before reaching the roots and leave them till after 10 to 20 minutes. The roots process faster than the rest of your hair due to your body heat, keep that in mind when using any hair bleach or dye kits.

    The easiest option is to visit a stylist to do all these things with colouring your hair, but it gets expensive. Especially for bleaching, as it can take a good few hours to do it properly and safely with minimal damage to hair.

    Sorry for rambling on, just a few things I have picked up from my sister (who is a professional stylist). Figured I would share them.

    p.s: I bleach and dye my hair at home, my sister will probably murder me when I am able to return back home for a visit, lol.
     
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    Kemaiku Honorary Pony

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    I was planning on leaving it for a stylist to do...after buying a pack in the shop lol. I haven't touched it after reading the instructions, but it's a temporary electric blue that can be used on darker hair. I only really want a blue sheen on it so I won't be using peroxide or lightening it like that. It's that Schwar...something brand, they advertise it all the time.

    I have a good shampoo but I don't overuse it as it is, just natural based cleaning soaps etc most of the time, it's looking a lot better lately as it is.
     
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  11. Ialyrn Aeloria

    Ialyrn Aeloria The Unknown Entity

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    Manic Panic dyes are only semi-permanent dyes, I use it to colour my hair because it does not require peroxide or other developers; and it acts as a conditioner to a point. Since I bleached my hair, then it pays off for me to use them. I do not know if splatt is the same.

    colouring your hair at home isnt too hard to be fair, just have to be careful. It seems more complicated than it is when you first go to do it, but if you stick with a singular brand; it becomes very easy (and quick) to do. It is possibly to do ombre's, balayage, and even colour melts at home if you can build up the confidence and skill to do it. But you do have to be careful in regards to overprocessing the hair, which will just result in increased breakage, split ends, melting (yes, you can melt the hair with dyes and hair bleach especially).

    By the way, be careful if you do use that schwarzkopf dye. They have silicone in them, and using hot styling tools on your hair after using one of their dye kits; it really sticks it into your hair. Makes it very difficult to remove, and you usually have to either cover it up, or grow it out. I used a purple one once, and I had to go almost 2 months without using my straighters on my hair till I removed it.
     
  12. Kemaiku

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    I never straighten my hair or use a hair dryer. It's very wavy and can't be controlled by most things so I just leave it, and hair dryers are terrible for my scalp so I haven't used one in over ten years. It would be a cold manual dry anyway.
     
  13. SRainboom

    SRainboom Beware The Kitten Holy!

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    I have my first GIC appointment in Leeds on Feb 15th!!!!! :D :D :D :D

    So I've waited just under a year, about 11 months, which is a long time but sooner than I expected.

    Also today I had my first session at SHARE which is a gender and sexual health service, and I got a lot out of it :)
     
  14. Kemaiku

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    So *deep breath* think I've finally worked up the courage to start seeing my local GP soon. I have mental health issues recently I need to talk to them about as well but I'll mention everything when I'm there, get everything started. Most of the NHS pages I've been reading all week are a good sign they cover non-binary and genderfluid patients with pretty equal importance so...yay, one worry slightly less....worry-y.
     
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  15. Untitled_Dot_V

    Untitled_Dot_V Beep Ba Beeeep!

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    Hey peoples! I'm working towards creating a more reliable prediction table for waiting times. Going about this by getting people to fill out this form (is only 3 questions) so we can plot graphs and see trendlines /._./ Me and many other people would be grateful if you could respond to it, you do need to know is when your first appointment was/is, please no estimates, error bars are hard :c

    thank you <3
     
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  16. Thunder Splitter

    Thunder Splitter I've run out of things to write here

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    I'm finally going to open up, I'm transgender, I've felt this way for years now, I felt scared of the reaction I would get, where is the best way to get support?
     
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    Wisdom Pen Residential Philosopher and Wizard of Lincoln

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    depends what type of support you're after?
     
  18. Thunder Splitter

    Thunder Splitter I've run out of things to write here

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    I feel I'm ready to transition from male to female
     
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    SRainboom Beware The Kitten Holy!

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    Welcome to the trans sisterhood <3
     
  20. Thunder Splitter

    Thunder Splitter I've run out of things to write here

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    Thanks
     

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